I had about written off men. When I was younger, I had married one, found out he was using me and fooling around behind my back, and gave him his walking papers. Now, in my mid-thirties, all the good men seemed to be either married, in long term relationships, or gay. The bad ones were one of the first two, just like my ex Nick, and seemed to temporarily forget that wedding ring they were wearing. The real skunks took it off.
Then one day Kevin asked me out after work. It came completely out of the blue. I liked him, knew he wasn’t attached to anybody, but he just didn’t seem like the dating kind. He was kind of cute about it. We always stopped by each other’s cubicles to joke, but nothing ever came of it.
But there he was, my age, and for pity’s sake stammering as he asked me out. Standard fare, movie and a dinner. Well it could be interesting, and I certainly didn’t have any better offers outstanding, so I accepted. We made a date for the coming Friday. Since we lived in opposite directions, and I took a car pool, we decided to go in his car, and I would cancel my car ride home.
The debate over the movie to watch was rather predictable. We settled it with one person got to pick the movie, while the other picked the restaurant. I got the honors for the movie, and I picked a chick-flick I wanted to see. Friday arrived, and I called the theater about show times, only to be told they sold out. Figures, that kind of movie never sold out, except this time. I went to Kevin’s desk with the ‘bad’ news.
“No problem,” he said. “I picked up tickets to it on Wednesday as soon as you told me what movie you wanted to see. I made the restaurant reservations also. Things still get busy on Fridays, or have you not noticed?” he grinned.
Well I hadn’t but I wasn’t about to let him know why. “So did you do all this on your cell phone?”
Kevin made a face. “I hate those things. I carry one because I have to, but I use it as little as possible. I took care of both via their web sites.”
We got to the movie, I loved it, Kevin was polite about it. I could tell it would be a while before I could drag him into another. We went to dinner, and it was a nice restaurant. It was Greek, not part of a chain, and the food was wonderful. I had fish of some sort, Kevin had a salad and a wrapped-shrimp appetizer, which surprised me. I usually don’t think of that as guy food. We also had a chance to talk some more.
“That is an unusual meal for a guy to order. Didn’t you want the lamb?”
“No, I tend to limit my meat intake. Usually I get off work, spend a half an hour at the Y, then go to the grocers to pick up some fresh vegetables. I cook it all in one pan, onions, garlic, peppers, yams, broccoli, peas, carrots, or whatever I feel like and looks good that day.”
“You cook?” I asked, not quite believing what I was hearing.
“I work at a desk all day. I don’t want to look like a weeble, so I exercise and cook, the vegetables with a bit of pork or chicken thrown in, and sometimes some rice or noodles. Depends on how I feel that day.”
“Weebles?” I asked.
“They wobble but they don’t fall down.”
I giggled. We had more than one of those at work. We left the restaurant, and drove to my apartment. “Would you like to stop in for a night cap?” I asked.
“Sure”
We went in. He actually looked interested in the decor. “What can I get you to drink?” I asked.
“Ginger ale, 7-Up, Fruit Juice, anything like that. I still have to drive.”
“You don’t have to drive anywhere you know.”
He sort of gave me a funny look. Moment of truth I guess. “Get what you want to drink and we will talk,” he said, heading over to my couch. I sat down beside him and handed him his glass. “Welsh’s, good vintage too,” he said. Small talk.
“So Kevin, what is happening at home tonight? Hot Internet chat line?”
He laughed. I liked the sound of it. “No, nothing like that. I am 37, I have been in a number of relationships now, and I have always found the ones that start with a one night stand never work. You can’t look at the other person the same way after that. Or did you mean something different and I read you wrong?”
“I need to change into something more comfortable,” I said. The look on his face was priceless. I went to my room, put down my hair, and changed into sweat pants and shirt. I walked back out, and he started laughing, somewhat relieved.
“Well, that has to be more comfortable I have to admit.”
I sat down beside him. “The answer to your question is that I knew you would refuse, I just wanted to hear why. Good answer by the way.” Then I leaned over and kissed him. Strangely, there was no holding back, no indecisiveness on his part. And it was a heck of a kiss. The kind that something usually comes after, except made even better by the fact this time there wasn’t.