"Choo-choo!"
I glanced over at the young boy sitting across the aisle. I'd first noticed him while we were waiting at the station. He appeared to be about five-years-old and it was quite clear from his dress and his demeanor that he was really into trains. Every visible article of clothing, including his shoes and socks, was adorned with trains. In fact, I'd be willing to bet that Thomas the Tank Engine or one of his ubiquitous pals was also adorning the young man's little boxers or briefs.
The child clutched a miniature train in each fist. He would occasionally roll them on his leg or gently tap them against each other, but mostly he was content to spin their wheels and whisper,"Choo-choo."
He was an incredibly handsome child with short, curly, blond hair and deep, blue eyes that stared blankly through me when he happened to glance in my direction. It was that blank stare, along with an extreme paucity of language that caused me to suspect that he had some type of developmental delay, most likely some form of autism.
My suspicions were confirmed when the train finally arrived. At first, he covered his ears and moaned when the train rumbled in and squealed to a stop; but, as soon as the noise ended, he jumped up in excitement. As we waited for the doors to open so that boarding could begin, he jumped up and down flapping his arms wildly in front of him shouting, "Choo-choo, choo-choo!"
His mom kept a close grip on him as she tried to calm him down. "I see the choo-choo, Jay. I see it. Calm down. Yes, yes, it's a choo-choo. We'll get on the choo-choo in a minute."
Jay did seem to calm down once we got on the train. As I said, he ended up sitting with his mother across the aisle from me, and for the first hour or so of the trip, he simply looked around and muttered to himself quietly with a sing-song mixture of garbled sounds.
As time wore on, however, he began to get restless. The occasional whispered, "Choo-choo" gradually became louder and more frequent until he was jumping up and shouting it every few minutes. When he wasn't shouting, he was rocking back and forth in his seat and kicking the seat-back in front of him.
At first, the mother tried gamely to engage him. She brought out a small bag of snacks. They looked at train books. She even had a portable DVD player that showed a variety of train movies. All these things worked for a while, but then Jay would start again. "Choo-choo?"
The mother smiled apologetically when the other passengers glared at her. She engaged in a futile stream of calming words directed at Jay when they made sarcastic comments about her parenting abilities and her brat. She redoubled her efforts at distraction when they complained to the porter. Eventually, however, she just gave up.
Several of the other passengers had given up as well. As the day wore on, more and more requested, and were granted, new seats. Soon there were only a handful of us left in the car.
"Choo-choo!"
Sighing, I closed my novel. It was clear that I was not going to be able to get much reading done on this trip. I looked over again. Jay continued to ignore me as he jabbered to himself and wiggled his fingers in front of his face. His mother, unfortunately, could not so easily escape from reality. Her eyes glistened with unshed tears.
The next thing I knew, I found myself leaning over to talk to her. "So, you guys headed to Disney World?"
She turned toward toward me and smiled wanly. "Yes, we're meeting my husband and other two children down there."
It seemed like she wanted to say more, so I gently encouraged her. "Have you ever been before?"
Her smile was broader this time. "Yes, it's a wonderful place for children with disabilities. It's one of the few places we can go as a family and really enjoy a vacation. Jay's on a gluten-free diet and the have food he can eat."
Her smile was short-lived. "This is the first time, we've taken the train though."
I nodded and she continued.
"Usually we take our car, but it's a 15 hour drive, and," she smiled ruefully, "he doesn't travel well." We thought about flying, because it would be a lot shorter, but..." Her voice trailed off.
"Jay's always been into trains, so we thought that maybe this would work," she continued. My husband flew with the other kids and Jay and I took the train." Jay's mom sighed loudly.
"Choo-choo!" Jay squealed.
She continued, "I thought he'd be content to look at his things for a while and then fall asleep with the motion of the train." She looked ready to cry.
I absentmindedly patted her on the shoulder as I thought of my own son. He was in his thirties now, and was able to mostly live independently and take care of himself, but I clearly remembered his early years.
"Choo-choo," I whispered quietly to Jay as I gently touched the front wheel of his train. I stared off into space as I tried to get inside his head and see things from his perspective. "You know, people with autism are visual. They say they think in pictures," I muttered to Jay's mom.
All of a sudden I had it. "Wait here," I said as I jumped up and ran toward the front of the train. I found the porter and flagged him down. "Excuse me, I'm in 726, and…"
"Sorry," he interrupted me, "I have no where left to move you. We upgraded 20 people from that car already. You’ll just have to deal with the kid for now and talk with the main office when we stop."
"No, I'm not asking to move. I think I have an idea how to stop him. Would it be possible to get him a map with a layout of the train?"
The porter looked skeptical, but I managed to convince him that this could help and at this point he was just desperate enough to try anything. "I'll see what I can do."
I ran back to Jay’s mom to explain my plan. "I bet he doesn’t even understand that he's on the train," I told her. "He’s never seen the inside of a train before, and this doesn't really look much like the outside."
Once the porter returned with several maps, we got Jay settled without too much trouble. "Look, Jay, it's the choo choo."
You should have seen the rapture on his face as his mom pointed out the parts of the train and then showed him where his seat was.
The rest of the trip passed in relative peace. Jay did drag his mom all through the train with the maps in his hand pointing and muttering, "Choo-choo" as he went, but it was a small price to pay for a happy child.